How do I convince my son to be a good person?
My son is 8 years old, and he is the most important thing in my life. I want him to go on to be a wonderful person, but lately he has developed habits that make me think he is going to grow up to be a menace to society. This all started about four weeks ago, and I’m at my wit’s end. I’ve tried to take him to church counselling, and I even gave in and took him to a therapist, but the therapist told him there was nothing wrong with him!
My son has always been special. He’s smart as a whip, and he is very good at making friends. I thought he was going to be quite the stud! Little girls are always following him around, and he gets along so well with women. He’s a real charmer! But I think all of his female friends might be a bad influence on him.
About a month ago, I walked into his room to find him staring at a picture of Zac Efron. His eyes were locked on that picture, and I asked him what he was doing, and he said ‘Daddy, can I marry this man?’. I was shocked!
My son is turning gay! I don’t know where I went wrong. I took him camping and we play catch together every weekend. I don’t know if it’s my fault or his mother’s, after all, she did convince me to let him take up playing the flute.
I thought it was just a fluke, but last night, even after I took him to counselors and we joined a devout Southern Baptist church, he told me he wants to do ballet with his friend Kirsten! My son, who I thought I would take to The Game every weekend whenever possible, wants to dance ballet.
I’ve been researching ways to correct bad behavior in children, and I found a therapist in my area who does something called ‘rebirthing’. It sounds kinda fruity to me, but I’ll do anything at this point! Please help!
I know it must be hard. It will get harder. Have you seen any movies where a boy is telling there parents that they are gay? Well, you don’t want your son to be going through that. So, love him for who he is. You can’t suck the creativity out of you kids. Then they will become dull as a truck driver. LET HIM BE. Talk to him, when he is a little above eight. He needs to be himself. Did you know most successful fashion designers are gay? YOU CAN’T TURN HIM INTO SOMETHING HE IS NOT!!!! Watch on youtube, supermac18 videos. That kid is amazing, he seems girly, idk if he is gay or not. But, think about how he will be if he was like everyone else? WATCH MOST OF THE VIDEOS!!!!!
he’s 8, not gay. He is interested in these things because his friends are as well. at 8 years old, very few children have an acquired sexual preference. very rarely are 8 year olds sexually attracted to any individual. Zac Efron is a very successful star, he is not sexually attracted to him because he is unaware of what being married entails in regards to sexual activity. he isnt going to be a menace to society because he plays the flute
You sir are an idiot, it is not wrong, bad or a sin to be a homosexual. You are just very ignorant and you should take a look at yourself before judging the gay culture as being “bad”. I am straight but anyone can see that what you are saying is very wrong and if you do take him to any cancelling then your are doing bad yourself. Its his life!
1. You didn’t go wrong.
2. You can not control something that is out of your control.
3. Homosexuality is not an illness.
4. You need to seek counseling on how you can find acceptance with your son being homosexual, if in fact he is, and peace with this; and, some general parenting/psychology classes may help as well to give you insights on child developmental psychology.
5. Any steps you take to make him straight and make sure he’s not gay will hurt him.
6. All this is assuming he is actually homosexual. It is hard to know what is going on in the mind of a child. By reacting as you are reacting and aggressively attacking this issue, you are telling him that he is gay, and you are telling him that there is something wrong with him. And he will believe you because you are his father.
7. If ever in your life you have “let go and let God” then this is the time.
8. The majority of homosexuals are law-abiding, productive members of society. The majority of incarcerated persons are heterosexual in orientation.
Let’s assume he is homosexual and you continue your aggressiveness to change this. Changing sexuality is typically referred to as “conversion therepy”.
What the American Psychological Association says today:
http://www.apa.org/topics/sexuality/orientation.aspx
Look what this poor guy went through:
http://www.kstatecollegian.com/news/student-recounts-painful-conversion-therapy-abuse-1.2114740
General Premise:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conversion_therapy
21st Century:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conversion_therapy#21st_century
More debate:
http://www.religioustolerance.org/hom_0051.htm
One Man’s Failed Attempt:
http://abcnews.go.com/2020/story?id=3634484&page=1
One man’s take on this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2gyGuQ4fsEY
Yet another site questioning it’s legitimacy:
http://psychology.ucdavis.edu/rainbow/html/facts_changing.html
Here is another site saying it doesn’t work:
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/179990/conversion_therapy_does_it_really_cure.html
So, the majority of the consensus is:
1. While some claim it can work, professionals question the legitimacy of the claims and the methodologies used to substantiate same.
2. Most mental health professionals insist that this is dangerous to a person’s well-being, deepening feelings of shame and depression, and has (and can) lead to suicide.
So,it is what it is and you aren’t going to change it.
I have a hope that you can find the strength in your faith and in your love for your son, regardless of what he is, to find a way to accept him as he is and move on.
I doubt this will be the case.
I mourn for your son.
Lead by example.