They hate their dad…?
I have been divorced from my boys’ father for 7 yrs. They see him on a regular basis, and hate to. He swears at them, makes them haul his wood, promising to give them a bonfire or fishing and doesn’t. Makes them rake his yard in the rain. He makes them eat until they puke, or eat things that make them puke (fish tacos! seriously!) He tells them they are lazy and will never get a good job (they are 8 and 9). He is an alcoholic, and he has anger issues. My boys leave to go to his house scared to death, and they come home heartbroken and crying everytime. He did take them camping, on the Dad and Lad for cub scouts the other day. My youngest had to go to the bathroom, his dad wouldn’t let him, so he had an accident and had to sleep in his wet sleeping bag all night in 35 degree weather. The court says they have to keep going to his house until they are 18, unless there are signs of PHYSICAL abuse. I don’t have a lot of money for a lawyer and I’m kind of afraid to open that can of worms, considering his violent behavior. I don’t want him to take it out on them. What else can I do?
Mental abuse is just as bad as physical. Sounds like you need to get a better Lawyer and document everything and take it back to court. If it has already been to court with all you stated here documented then the Lawyer you had was not worth what you paid him.
omg that is horrible i don’t really know what you can do but i know you can stop them from seeing their father if you have evidence of this and take him to court my sister did that but you do need strong evidence but i don’t know how that all works i really don’t know what you can do i feel really bad for the boys….. (i am 13 and have 2 nephews)
He may not physically harm them but he’s doing serious damage to them mentally. I would write down everything he’s down to your boys and at least go and ask for legal advice from a lawyer or try to find one pro bono. You may not want to go there but he did the moment he started terrorizing your boys and scaring them. It’s hard but it’s best to do something now rather than wait until he MAY eventually do some physical harm to your boys and cause more mental scars then they already have from him.
Hire someone to take care of him for you!
Straighten him out a bit.
i think thats mental abuse, its definitely not the way a child should be treated. im glad they have you as a mom though, you seem to care about them and love them.
maybe you could go in and speak to the police, tell them that you are scared of your son’s father’s behaviour and are worried for the welfare of your kids. it is in no way good for them to be terrified of going to their dads house and then coming home crying. good luck.
document everything and get a good lawyer as hard as it is
you are the one that has to stand up for your sons
i agree with cheryl_h a mental abuse is so wrong and children should not be treated like your sons like that especially by their own parent. your kids should not spend a lot of time with their dad and cut down the relationship between the three of them, especially they go to see him and they are scared and they come home crying all the time. then you can document what you wrote us and go to show it to the police. tell them that you are scared about your sons welfare while they are with their dad they might have to speak to him.
and i am glad your sons have you as a mom, you love and care about them