2 Responses to “Parents: how would you handle this?”

1. Liz says:

   January 17, 2012 at 2:49 pm

   I would respond “you are right, I do want Mike to see OUR son, and as soon as Mike is ready to do that, have him call me”. If Mike wants your son to visit during the time he is home, let Mike make and pay for the travel arrangements and you just stay out of it. Clearly, no arrangement will be made so it won’t be a problem. Write to Mike separately, explaining your actions and saying that you don’t want to come between him and his new family so he should please contact you when he wants to see his son. Explain that you don’t want to fight with his wife that she is not nice to you and that you are stopping all contact with HER in his absence. Reiterate that he is welcome to see his son when ever he wants.

   I am saying to write Mike separately because no matter what you say to his wife, she will probably not tell him, or twist your words around… so you need to speak to him, not her.
2. mystic says:

   January 17, 2012 at 3:35 pm

   Take the higher ground always. You’re right a new baby would be taking a lot of attention away from your son and your son could get jealous of that attention… which could cause more problems. I also think you don’t need contact with her. You don’t need to be friends on facebook with her. People know she’s being ugly so let her hang herself socially speaking you need not comment. You don’t have to see it either. You can block her. It’s understandable if you need to have a way to contact your ex because you share a child. The arrangement you have for child support is between you and him and none of her business. You don’t need her blessing. As long as your son is getting what he needs and his father is being gracious about it that’s all you need. It’s a futile battle but always invite father and son meetings. Your son if he doesn’t will eventually understand that you encouraged father son time.