i hate my house! and im only 15!?
ok, i just hate my house! we live in the woods, so theres bugs and spiderwebs all over our deck, patio, and door. and weeds and trees just grow every where in out yard! then, since our house is old, we have old dirty fixtures, and the bathroom is bad because we have iron water so theres orange rings around everything, and its kinda gross becasue liek behind the toilet or in the corners of the room theres dirt and hair and dust and blahhhh. adn none of the cupboard in the kitchen or bathroom are organized, none of the furniture matches, the windows are dirty, our house is cluttered and ughhhhhhhhhhh i hate it! and im only a kid so i cant do liek heavy heavey cleaning to get it all done, and my family doesnt help! what should i do? im embarassed to have ppl over!
start cleaning, like, now.
have a family meeting i would love to come by to help you, i have been here
It’s not YOUR house… it’s your parent’s house. And while you live there, you must live in the environment they prefer. Someday you’ll be grown up and have a place of your own.
talk to your mom and dad and maybe they’ll hire a cleaning service to get things straightened up. They can hire an exterminator for the bugs. If none of this helps, try to clean up your space. Throw away junk, dust, clean, wash and polish the heck out of everything in your room after you organize it. Maybe once they see what your’ve done, they’ll want to have some of it too. then kids could come to your room
aww im sorry, that sucks =(
let your parents know the effect its having on you–its distracting, not allowing you to be social, possibly making you sick or susceptible to diseases, and stressful. maybe they could hire a cleaning lady or something. we have one, sharon, shes like my bff.
but try to do any cleaning you can
Aw, honey, I’m sorry you have to live in that! For starters, get your own room as clean as possible. This will tell the friends that you do have over that you value cleanliness even if your family does not. Try cleaning the bathroom you use, too. See if you can encourage mom to get some lime and rust remover from the store for you. You certainly can’t keep the whole house clean, but you can do your best on your own areas. You never know, maybe you will shame the rest of the household, or at least a couple of them, into pitching in. It’s easier to lead by example.
A friend of mine had a horrible house in high school, and his parents and sisters would never help. He called CPS and reported his own endangerment (lol) and they came out and told the parents the house HAD to be cleaned up. This was a very extreme case, though, and I’m not suggesting that unless your home is unsafe for you and your siblings.
the problem is that you have to do a lot of hard work to start with because you have left it this long. (not that its ur fault), but u live there, so you dont have to put up with it. you can clean, ur 15, ur big enough, the good thing is, if you put ur mind to it, get it done in a weekend or so, then all u have to do is maintiain it from then on. then its easier, if u wait till its dirty to clean, its always harder. go through, room by room, clean, tidy, throw away stuff you dont need, and use simple cleaning products from around the house. play a bit of music to keep you motivated. maybe if your parents wont help, you can say ull do the work if they buy the cleaning products. you dont need to spend a whole lot of money to fix things up. cobwebs can be remade every few hrs, so the trees etc are at fault for that. either kill the pests or keep wiping the webs away with a broom. hope that helps.
like start cleaning a little bit everyday. if noone helps then do it yourself. if you dont want to live like a slob then get off the computer and clean up.
Hi, I understand exactley how you feel. You know ,even though you don’t get any help,you can still sweep the hair and dust up behind the toilet, and get your mom to buy some ,”Iron Out”. That will take out the rust stains from the sink. And if she can’t buy it, then save your money to buy some. I know your young,but Things arn’t that bad are they? you should live where I do. If your lucky enough to be able to buy a house, which the cheapest one’s cost over a quarter of a million dollars=$500,000.000, and the backyard is six foot wide and three foot deep. the house is five foot away from the street, and the neighbors house is 21/2 feet away from yours, sometimes you have one driveway to share. We’re real lucky. We go out on the balcony, where you can hear and see what people are getting from the MacDonalds drivethru all night long. The balconey hangs over the drive,and the neighbors,hangs over the banks drivethrough. There are Mountains close by,but I don’t know what they look like yet. The smog is so bad, you never would know they where there.Maybe their not,Idon’t know for sure,you can’t see them and it’s only ten miles to the mountain. All the schools students are now latino. There are wire fences,with barbed wire on top of them, all around the whole school. If you happen to be the one and only little white girl with blonde hair , going to that school, you’d better be prepaired to dye it black,and learn spanish real qwick,or you’ll be in for a beating. Oh, I Forgot, if your a boy,you’ll have to shave your head bald, wear white tee shirts, and make sure the waist of your dark pants,sits at your knees. There’s graffitti everywhere, so save all your money for spray paint. I’m sure ,living in the woods, you get animals that come up to your house at night. We get them too! The only difference is, ours are peeping toms. Maybe, their peeping thomasinas.Either way ,a person of some sorts sneeks up to your windows and watches you. Watches you sleep, or shower,or anything. They make sure to leave big footprints at your windows, so you know they where there.One time even,they took the whole window out, and stole all of my underware! But that’s when I lived alone. Now they only watch you. Want to trade? I’ll take the spiders,trees,iron ring in the sink,even the hair behind the toilet! Heck, I’ll even organize your cubbards and put slipcovers on the furniture. Lets trade, please? I like old houses! My point is dear, You ain’t got it so bad! So quit whinning, and grab a broom. ( I hope I haven’t offended anyone,if I did,it was pure unintentional) Bye
Bless you, I had the same embarrassment when I was your age, but I lived in the suburbs, and my house was always messy. My Mom was a loving person, but not a good housekeeper.
Now that I have found FlyLady, I see I could have done alot — by myself– to make my home okay for friends to visit. By picking up and organizing– at 15 minutes at a time, I could have made my house acceptable, IF I could have compromised my perfectionist standards! And, MAYBE my Mom would have learned something by my actions, and would eventually be able to help, too.
How many of your friends have perfect houses?! Actually, one of mine did, with a million dollar house, AND a maid/nanny to help keep it perfect. It’s what made me give up, I think. Too bad Flylady wasn’t on TV back then! (This was WAY before computers.)
If you doing it alone doesn’t catch on, and the place remains a mess, just make your home the place where the heart is, where people feel comfortable, where they feel like part of the family–food works wonders, along with a loving, accepting atmosphere at your home. If your attitude is “come in, you are loved here”, you will be blessed with friends who want to be at your house more than they want to be at their own! It takes ALOT of maturity for a 15 yr. old, to not be worried about what others will think, but it is GUARANTEED to bring in the friends by droves!!
May you hear and learn from my words!!
In love, DD
Since your family will not help, do it yourself. Keep making comments while you are doing it and maybe they will get the hint.
Try telling your parents you are embarrassed to have people over.
You could always tell them all you want for your birthday is to have a cleaning crew come to the house and give it a good cleaning. Or save money to pay someone to do it. Babysitting is an option to earn money for it.
As far as cleaning supplies many things can be cleaned with kitchen items like vinegar, salt, lemon juice etc.. (see site below)
Start cleaning with your room and your bathroom. That way you can live in cleanliness and if your friends come over they will see it is not you who is the messy one. Maybe the rest of the family will see it and take the hint!
Sorry you have to deal with that. I have had roommates that are dirty and I am a neat nut and it drove me crazy because I always had to clean up after them.
Just think, if you keep your grades up, in a few years you can go off to college and they ask you how neat you are when they look for a roommate for you in the dorms! Or you can get your own place and not have to worry about a roommate.