I never thought I’d resort to yahoo answers, please help.?
I didn’t think i would ever resort to this but i could really use some advice…
I am 18 and i have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We dated only a month before he ended up leaving for boot camp…and when he left we decided to break up but we still wrote each other…i dated a few people while he was gone but I picked him up in missouri at the end of his term and we picked up right where we left off. We were inseparable(engaged for awhile). But after so long things got really bad. He is very jealous and i ended up giving up quite a few friends for him. The petty arguments turned into fights, and the fights turned into huge blow outs. The cops have gotten called 3 times that i can remember, and i have had to put a retraining order on him for an incident where he slashed my best friends car tire. We have broken up quite a few times but for some reason we always come running back to eachother. Our fights are disgusting and childish… Name calling, down grading, Ect. We just recently got back together about 2 months ago… and I decided he is all i want out of life.. i have been giving him everything. I overdrew my bank account bc he needed clothes. I leave him cute love notes, I rub his back every night before bed, Ect. He is never the first to say “i love you” and theres been a case where he has even yelled at me for saying it bc he was trying to watch a movie and i distracted him. Just last night i picked up a shift for work… and he thinks i lied about it and secretley went to hang out with my ex. Which i would never do. I am a ONE man kind of girl and i want the real deal. He is always accusing me of cheating. When we fight he calls me “bitch” “immature” “slut”…and so on and so on. Just a week ago he told me i was a peice of shit bc im not in college yet.! im only 18! hes 23 and STILL not in school but i would never tell him he was a peice of shit. I usually have to run to my girl friends house in the middle of the night at least once a week bc he gets violent. I dont know why i always go back but i do. I would do anything for my love. I dont believe in high shcool drama-filled relationships.Im a huge hopeless romantic and this isnt how i pictured my life =\ but what do I do ? I think sometimes maybe im asking too much out of love? like maybe i wont find anything better. PLEASE tell me what you think i should do.. some advice, Anything?
I think you pretty much laid it all out for you, you don’t have to go on Dr. Phil, or watch an episode of Maury, to know that you should get out of the relationship
get the FUCK away from this guy. I had a similar relationship, though granted I was much younger, but also I kept going back to the same abusive guy. All signs point to him using you.
I’m pretty sure the reason you stay with this guy is that you have some unresolved issues yourself, maybe something with self esteem? just know that you are the best you can be and there is no reason for you to be treated like this. however much it hurts i beg you to get away from this guy. he obviously doesn’t care as much about you as you care about him.
please please please save yourself from this kind of life!
godspeed
You really need to ask yourself is this how I want my life to be? As for my opinion you should move on; it may be hard at first but you deserve better in life. If he truly cared for you he wouldn’t say such things to you and belittle you
Cole! You know what you have to do. Get him out of your life because he is making it a living hell. It will get worse and your life could be in danger. You must see this or you would not be asking for help. If you need someone to tell you what you need to do then I am telling you, now do not hesitate. What he is doing to you is both verbal and mental abuse for the time being. It will become physical in time! Do not let that happen if you hesitate it could cost you dearly! Jim B.