If you were in my shoes, would you just go ahead and commit to being single for life?
Hello all, I am now seriously beginning to think about staying single for the rest of my natural life. I am almost 30 and have still not had a g/f yet if you can believe that. This is not due to my personal choice, it is because I was delt a VERY shi**y hand by my so called “parents”. I got screwed, could not go to college due to a lack of monetary support from my “parents”, and instead had to join the Marines. Since single women don’t exist at Camp Lejeune, NC / Jacksonville, NC AND due to the fact that civilians hate Marines in the surrounding communities, I didn’t get to date from age 18 to 23. After getting out of the Marine Corps, I took a good paying job in Colorado Springs, Colorado and subsequently was laid off. Unfortunately for me, since I am an outsider from TN, Colorado women (and men too) look down on me because I am from the south and will NOT give me the time of day since I am not a Colorado Native and because I am not from some “cool” place such as Oregon or Washington state. I have made up my mind that I am going to move to Texas or Oklahoma in order to be in a place that is culturally similiar to what I grew up with where the people are actually nice to you and friendly unlike Colorado natives and transplants tend to be. Anyway, since I am almost 30, I realize that the only single women in my age range will be single mothers and I REFUSE to get involved in “baby daddy” drama. In your opinion, don’t you think that I would be better off just staying single since things haven’t worked out for me like they do for most normal people in terms of dating and marriage is conerned?
Stop making excuses and blaming your parents, the Marines and the South for your inability to attract a mate. Perhaps it’s your negative attitude that is turning off potential dates. There are plenty of childless unmarried women your age who would love to marry a responsible man and get married. You can meet them through dating websites, church singles groups, and social activities of all kinds. But your willingness to give up so readily at the age of 29 suggests that maybe you don’t have the drive to find a woman and are perhaps better off staying single.
I think you should be comfortable being single. Make your move, life a good life. Don’t rule out meeting someone. I am nearly 30 and I don’t have kids, and I know plenty of women my age and older who don’t have them.
It’s kind of upsetting that you would think that the only single women in their late 20s/early 30s around here are single moms. That’s the kind of closed-mindedness right there that will prevent you from finding someone. Where I live, there are plenty of single women who are not single moms, and it’s not because they’re fat or ugly or weird, either. They just realize there’s more to life than getting married young and starting families. I hang out with a group of about 8 girls who are all single, who are just working on their careers and finding out what life has to offer them.
I was all set to root for you and say, “Hey don’t give up!” But now that I’ve seen the rest of your question, maybe it IS better you commit to being single for life.