is my brother gay? what do you think?
I love my brother. He’s the only one I can have a good time with. he’s 22 and im 15.
Now, never in my life have I seen him with a girlfriend.
He has this obsession, with being skinny. Like he doesnt want to be buff, he wants to be…skinny.
he exercises alot, and he always takes care of his hair and teeth.
This one time, my mom bought me some Camp Rock lip balm and i was gonna throw them away and he asked for them. He wears lip balm alot d:
& he has “best friends” that are probably like 30 or something, and he always fights with them like a couple would. It’s kind of scary. Cus I suspected he was gay for quite some time. But recently, I had this boyfriend(we broke up cus of my brother) and he was a skater d:
so everytime he skated his way to my house and my brother was outside he would be like “wow, thats amazing, do that again! wait, let me record you.”
and my ex would always tell me he was gay -.- and the more time i spent with my ex and my brother, the more i started to believe him. My brother would FLIRT with him, like, he would always want to hang out with him and take him from me. Like he did that before with some of my exes but most of my ex boyfriends were preppy, meaning they liked looking good and taking pictures and been seen and yadiyadiya, but he was more of a casual guy, like chill(my ex) so he would stop coming over and he told me my brother scared him. so I asked my brother, cold turkey.
“Brian…are you gay in any way?” and he slapped me -.- I know i was wrong to just ask out of nowhere. but he didnt had to slap me, then he was mad at me for 2 weeks, we didnt talked. I tried talking to him like whatever but he would ignore me. & he gets so mad whenever someone says “gay” like, he gets offended or something. im a cross dresser, i love dressing like a guy, and my brother always tells me to stop wearing those clothes, they’re too saggy or too dark or something.
and i have a gay sister, right? she is lesbian and all, and she and him dont get along. she tells me that she knows he’s gay he’s just in denial. but she can tell.
and he says that being lesbian is wrong, that he doesnt know what happened to my sister to make her that way, he’ll never see her as a brother lalala.
oh and he loves watching disney channel shows d: like i watch them too, but im 15 -.- and some of them, where theres cute guys d:
his favorite show is hannah montana -.- he seriously laughs at everything they say.
my point is…what do you think? i know i should leave him alone, and i learned my lesson, i dont wanna get slapped again xD but what should i do? if he is gay, then what should i tell him?
i dont want my boyfriends to be scarred of him and never come back D:
i cant just tell him “dude, leave us alone.” cus he gets butt hurt. and then he does anything he can to make my life miserable .-.
Ask him straight out (lol). If he says no then accept his answer.
He’s a total closet case. he spent so much time ragging on your sister, he knows he will hear it from her too. Just don’t bring it up to him anymore and let him come out on his own time
He sounds like a mess and you should just let him be and pay attention to you.
I LOVE HANNAH MONTANA TOO
oh yeah about your brother… maybe hes metro ( metrosexueal if you dont what metro means search in urbandictionary * WAIT is it metro or metero :S )
Whilst I do think that it seems preety likely there are a few points.
The fact that he wears “lip balm” is irreverent – it’s not lipstick, its to treat dry lips.
Again if he likes Hannah Montana, that is also irrelevant to his sexuality, since I don’t find to many women of 22 watching it. It was my sisters favorite programme, she got to 15, 16 and then never watched it again. But then who is anyone to say what TV he should like and not like.
The fact that he flirts with your boy friends is answer enough for you, if you want to know so badly, ask him and take what ever answer he gives and believe him. If he is gay then let him come out in his own time. If not then you don’t want to alienate him by perusing it non stop. Their are plenty of effeminate straight guys out their lol. Just as their as many average gay guys, who behave and dress exactly as a straight guy would. You should try and ignore stereotypes.
(And slightly off the point – you don’t ask some one “cold turkey” – lol, that tern of phrase is used to describe giving up a habbit suddenly and completely.)
Nah I think he’s straight AND homophobic. That seems to be the reaction of all the other Straight and homophobic people where I’m from. Just leave him alone though. Imagine slapping your sister, what a pr*ck (sorry, I know he’s your brother)
you just need to let him come to terms with his sexuality in his own time.
To me that sounds like a closet case. If he’s flirting with your former skater boyfriend and gets offended when you ask him of his orientation, he may have a little secret that he’s afraid to even admit it to himself, if you know what I mean. However, when I hear someone questioning a friend or family member’s sexuality, I never dismiss the possibility that he could also be metrosexual, meaning a guy who is straight but is into taking good care of himself and fashion like the cliche of a gay guy would. But I still have a feeling he might be gay.To me it sounds like if he gets offended at the word “gay” AND condemns your sister like that (which is VERY hypocritical of him) he could be in denial and afraid of facing the truth. I wouldn’t force him out of the closet if he is though. It’s up to him whether or not he is ready to take that step..
If he knoews he’s gay/homo-sexual than he must know that homo-sexuality all up is thought of as being wrong or disgusting and it’s not! I’m a bi-sexual/lesbian lean way more towards girls.. so uhm the fact he thinks being a lesbian is wrong he should think about how society views gay men aswell.. Your brother needs time i’m guessing. But still he is wrong to say that about lesbian/bi-sexual women. I don’t understand gay men.. How can you be attracted to pathetic losers who are scared to go near a human being that happens to be attracted to men. Referring to your ex.. no offence. sorry if I offended you. Just honestly he is clearly having a hard time with this.. especially if his reaction was a slap on the face. Hope I helped
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Leave him alone? Why is it such a big deal for you? If he is or isn’t, worry about yourself. I think you’re just being very sensitive and curious.