Marines: What do I have to look forward to?
My boyfriend is enlisting in the marines. As of now he’s doing delayed entry because he wants to make sure he can get his MOS that he wants which is Fire Crash and Rescue. He wants to be a fireman when all is said and done and having experience like what the marines has to offer will surely make it almost guaranteed that he gets a job at a station when he is done serving.
Now with all that said, as his girlfriend what do I have to look forward to? I support everything he is doing and planning on doing. I’m so proud of him! But I of course do have my worries…Hey, I’m a girl, it’s what we do. I’m just so afraid that when he comes back from boot camp he’ll be different…I know he’ll be different in multiple ways but I’m just so terrified that he wont be the giant teddy bear that I fell in love with (by teddy bear I do not mean pansy…he’s not a pansy at all; looks like an abercrombie bag ad, lead his high school football team in tackles and was all Ohioan, benches 320, unfortunately has set some kids straight…hes not a pansy. But he treats me the way I should be treated and is the most loving man I could imagine there could be) With that said, I’m worried he’ll lose that. Am I being too paranoid?
Also, I would like to know how it all works out. He goes to boot camp, he finishes and comes home for I think 10 days, then goes back to finish his schooling (which for fire crash and rescue I think it’s stationed in Hawaii? My sister ran track at the university there and knew some of the guys on base). How does it all work out? After he’s done with school, then what? He gets stationed at a base somewhere in the states and then most likely sent over seas somewhere? I’d really like to know how it all works out.
Also, I’m curious as to how it works with being a girlfriend and not a wife, when all is said and done with his schooling/training. I plan on moving with him to where ever he is stationed…unless ya know, it’s over seas…then I can’t go:p :[ but since I’m graduating from my school this year and my career choice of medical coding/billing/transcription is quite the wide range of careers so getting a job once moved shouldn’t be too entirely hard. I’m just trying to get a grasp of how this will all pan out before it’s a little late for planning. I do have time…or so Ryan tells me, the boyfriend, since he wont leave for basic until sometime in October or November…unless his MOS opens up which would make it sooner :[
I wish I could join with him…I’ve always thought of doing something military, ever since I was in 3rd grade the ideas just been stuck in my head. I’m shocked I even finished my schooling this year because I almost went to a recruiters office the third day of class because I wanted more of my life…Unfortunately, I had a horrible thing happen to me involving a somewhat suicide attempt (not really…I don’t know what I wanted from the overdose but I just wanted an escape from what all had happened) so any sort of military is out of the question for me I’m pretty positive once they would dig up my medical history. Not positive if they put me down as “attempted suicide” since they had to save their butts by not making my do the required 72hour hold. I don’t know. But most likely, it’d be a big DQ. I would hate to waste a recruiters time just to be told I messed up and can’t join.
Any way, I’m all for his choice of career. I want to be there for everything. He means the world to me and I love him more than should be possible. I’d really appreciate any sort of information/help in understanding what I have to look forward to in the too near future. Thank you so much for your time.
And if you’re a Marine/Military man, woman, or relative of one replying to this…thank you. For everything you’ve done for all of us.
I am in no way worried about him being unfaithful. He hates girls. Like….hates them. Yes, I am a girl. But I don’t act like the normal wenches you find. Thank god I grew up around sports and took a beating in other ways too. What doesn’t kill you makes you tougher right?…and less of the “ohmuhgawd I broke my nail!” prissy pants. We are not going to waver. We’ve been through too much to begin with. And…I’m his first and like I said, he hates girls. Trust me, he had offers before me…stupid girls at parties and such, but he was too proud and smart to give in to sluts. He is the most respectful kid that I have ever met and probably ever will. He treats me the way I should be treated. And he never has strayed his eyes before. I know I sound like a naive woman who thinks her high school sweetheart can do no wrong, but I’m serious…he’s too good for that shit. He. Hates. Dumb. Nasty. Bitch3s.
And if you don’t believe that then…how about: our sex life is way too good for him to gi
I am in no way worried about him being unfaithful. He hates girls. Like….hates them. Yes, I am a girl. But I don’t act like the normal wenches you find. Thank god I grew up around sports and took a beating in other ways too. What doesn’t kill you makes you tougher right?…and less of the “ohmuhgawd I broke my nail!” prissy pants. We are not going to waver. We’ve been through too much to begin with. And…I’m his first and like I said, he hates girls. Trust me, he had offers before me…stupid girls at parties and such, but he was too proud and smart to give in to sluts. He is the most respectful kid that I have ever met and probably ever will. He treats me the way I should be treated. And he never has strayed his eyes before. I know I sound like a naive woman who thinks her high school sweetheart can do no wrong, but I’m serious…he’s too good for that shit. He. Hates. Dumb. Nasty. Bitch3s.
And if you don’t believe that then…how about: our sex life is way too good for him to gi
I agree with the first answer.
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My husband is a Marine. Being married we get to live on base, and what not. As far as when he’s done with school, he will get orders to a base, and it really depends on his unit, and the rotation when he goes. It’s really hard to say about deployments, because my husband is an air winger, and has been deployed 3 times in his 5 years. As far as the lifestyle goes, you really just have to learn to deal with the Marines coming first. Good luck to you, and everything. It’s worth it, because absence really does make the heart grow fonder.
Here is what will happen once he finally picks his job. He will get a date for boot camp. Then he will attend boot camp. SOI, and then his job school. It all depends on when his next school picks up, rather he will get time to come home. I have seen troops have to report directly to there next school.
Once he completes school, he will be assigned to a duty station. It all depends on where his MOS is needed. He could be stationed stateside or he could be stationed overseas. The job he is trying to get means he will be working near the airfield. We have them in all of our Camps. Let me explain something about you. Unless you get married, the Military does not recognize you as anything except a girlfriend. From what you stated here, the MARINES is definitely not for you. If there is anything on paper that states you attempted suicide. You are going to be DQ from all the branches.
If you want to be with him once he joins, you will need to be married. I do not advise young people to get Married. I watched many Marines get married young and end up in a divorce. The choice is yours, but make sure the love is mutual. Good luck to you and your bf. Tell him i said Semper Fi.
From what I’ve seen there are changes for most people that join the military. With the marines I notice a huge ego that emerges after basic training. They go through the training and after it’s over they think they’re bullet proof and can do anything. Not all Marines get this though. No offense to you Marines, but you know it’s true. All branches tend to get that ego thing, but none more than the Marines. You’ll have to worry about when the boys leave base and finally see women for the first time in a while. I’ve seen engaged men and women forget about there fiance back home. Hopefully your guy is not the type to look at other women. The women do try to seduce the military guys. Keeping in touch helps. My girlfriend said that after I got back that i started to like weapons more, but i don’t believe that. I grew up around that. I will say some guys do begin to like guns more and want to get them when they come back. I know some women don’t like that. You will also have to worry about if he stays in country or goes over seas.
Good luck