My step mom and my dad are being stupid and I wanna prove them wrong?
ok so my dad married this fat chick for the money. shes an RN. so ever since they got married (i wasnt invited or even aware that they were married for a year until just a month ago) theyve been going to all these places like mexico and vegas and california about twice a year. well when im with my dad for summer vacation, he wont let me play softball. i would understand not being allowed to go to tournaments if we were going somewhere nice but all we do is camp for a day and then we stay home. we were going to olive garden last night and we were sitting in the car while my step mom was talking about them staying in the beverly hills waverly hotel and seeing danny divito and eddy murphy. my dad is very cheap and i was shocked to find out that they ate dinner and spent 400 dollars. so i made the mistake of asking ‘why cant we spend that much money on a family trip?’ well there are 3 kids and 2 adults so yes it might be pricey.
But with as many trips as they’ve taken, and then they say that they cant afford to take us anywhere, its been making me really mad lately. So while we were in the car, my dad was like well why don’t you set up a vacation. Ill give you a budget of 1000 dollars (he didn’t give me a 1000 dollars, he was just speaking hypothetically.) and you have to plan out car rental, air fare, hotels, and scheduling with that money. Well I know that anywhere I suggest, hes gonna shoot down all my ideas and then blame my mom for not allowing us to go anywhere. I don’t think im even making sense anymore lol as im trying to explain all of this. But all in all, my dad is cheap. He makes me pay for gas money if I wanna go anywhere, that is, if he lets me go.
. I even have to pay for half my xmas presents.. yeah.. merry freakin xmas. So anyways, as we went into olive garden, we sat at an 8 seated table because it was packed. At the end, it was my step mom, my dad, my brother, and then I was about to sit down. They told me to go to the other end of the table for some reason. So I wasn’t allowed in any conversation. They didn’t seem mad at me though, they just didn’t want anything to do with me. It doesn’t seem very fair, I mean I may have done something to deserve it but I honestly don’t know what lol. And now my step mom wont shut up and whenever im on my computer she reminds me to plan out the vacation. So should I honestly try this whole planning thing? I mean I was looking at air fare and it costs 1000 dollars as it is.
Believe it or not you will actually become a better adult than many others by what your dad is doing. You live in a right to entitlement age and if he didn’t do what he is doing you would have no sense of responsiblity.
Divorce your dad and tell him to shove his wife up his butt. He is already up her butt so far that he cant see his loving children.
Where do you live? I don’t mind doing a little research for you. Maybe you guys could do a weekend cruise or something like that. They have some good last minute deals on travel websites.
first off, parents are just stupid.
your dad must be someone really desperate.
i don’t think its fair to marry someone just for thier money.
what happened to things years ago?!
your dad has no clue how you feel at all,
and before you know it he’s going to lose his own children.
if i were you, i’ll probably talk to him. i mean, if he can do whatever he wants to do, than why can’t you?
Your dad gave you a perfect oppourtunity to prove to him that you know what you are talking about, and then you go and let him shoot you down, and HE didn’t even have to say a word because YOU did it for him.
Why don’t you take his challenge, and do something with it?
A family vacation doesn’t have to include a trip on an airplane. If you can’t take the whole family on a flight for $1G’s then you can’t. It’s as simple as that. So work within your budget, and come up with something that won’t break your budget, and everyone will enjoy.
Absolutely, you should plan the vacation. If your Dad renegs, you will still have had the experience, which I’m sure you’ll use in the future. There are a lot of tricks to getting the best buck, so scour the internet.
I’m really getting a lot of attitude from you, and a certain amount of it is expected. Parents sometimes have a way of doing things which impact their kids (like divorce and marriage) without taking the kids’ feelings into account, and that would make anyone mad. On the other hand, how your Dad chooses to spend his money is his business. And, unless you want him telling you how to spend yours after you’re adult, you’d be wise to leave it at that.
Your step mom sounds like she is trying to either make you feel bad or trying to find something to talk to you about. Either way she is doing a very bad job and it wouldn’t hurt for you to print this whole questions/answers page out and put it on the fridge! That might open their eyes to how badly they are treating you. =)
I would plan the vacation. Find somewhere close by that is nice so you can cut out the air fair and rental.
Make sure there are attractions/restraunts that you and your family would enjoy near by.
Make a list with prices and times. Let the family choose where to go from your list. That way everything they get to choose is something you want to do.
Let them pick as many as your budget will allow.
Here is an example Budget you could use:
$1000- Budget
- $400- Hotel
- $400- Food/Attractions
- $100- Gas
- $100- Souviners
if you give me a state I can help find some ideas on where to go. Whether post on here or email me.
Unfortunatly many families need a scapegoat and you seem to be it.
Wish you had said if you’re boy or girl and age-
l don’t think you are being treated fairly at all- but there you are.
l would be pretty mad if l were you, but honestly that gets me & you nowhere. Calling them names to yourself fuels bad emotions when you need to get good ones. Better put that energy elsewhere.
l would try my best to say to myself “l am not part of this family” and ignore the things that don’t include you.
What l would do is make as many friends who come from loving homes as possible and try to get invited there.
If you are old enough you can refuse to go out with them.
AND get some hobbies, after-school activities, etc. find things to do to keep yourself busy and HAPPY.
Don’t let them ruin your life- they’re not worth it.
You can build your own good life.
l would advise you to read biographies- see how other people overcame bad homes and made something wonderful of themselves. If they did it so can you, right?
I would take up the challenge.
I would plan a camping trip. I don’t mean RVing I mean camping. Tents, sleeping bags, cooking over an open fire etc. Plan some activities like hikes, whitewater rafting, horseback riding etc. For 1000 you can plan a sparse but fun holiday.
Once you have the details go to them with your plan. I have a feeling they won’t be too keen on the idea as they don’t sound the outdoorsy type. If they nix your idea then tell them that if all they can afford is 1000 then that is all they can expect you to find for a holiday. The results might be interesting. Good luck.