Okay ive asked this question 4 times today and havent gotten any answers. PLEASE HELP!!!!!?
So this girl ive been talking to for about 6 months now long distance said before we started talking she wanted to join the Navy. Well as we talked more and grew on eachother she said the Navy was slowly fading out of the picture. We have only met once and that was in Feb. We decided that it would be best if she moved here or I moved there in July after shes done with school. She said last week that she is contemplating just leaving for the military in July but shes not quite sure about it yet. She told me that it would be best if we both moved on, but she told me its just too hard. So we continue talking and trying to compromise on this situation. I have always had a feeling that she will back out of joining the military when it comes down to her having to actually sign her name on the contract. My question is, What do you think her decision is going to be? Is there a chance that she might back out of the military since I told her we are going to have to cut all ties if she does join? I told her if she gave it more time before she joined for us to live together and see if its going to work then I would be willing to wait for her to get done with training and boot camp. BTW im 19 and she is 18. I live in Missouri and she lives in Washington. thanks
IM NOT ONLY TALKING ABOUT HER BACKING OUT OF JOINING BECAUSE OF “US” BUT BECAUSE SHE IS VERY INDECISIVE ABOUT EVERYTHING. THATS WHAT I HOPE SHE WILL DO. I WOULD RATHER SHE DIDNT JOIN SO THAT WE COULD START OUR RELATIONSHIP AND BE HAPPY WITHOUT MILITARY SHIT IN THE WAY.
honestly nobody on here will know the answer except for her.
and you guys are so young so im pretty sure shes not going to move out of her state to go with you. then again idk. she may join the navy
i’m sorry, but i don’t think she’ll back out of it. like you said you just met once in february and you guys are still young. you have your whole lives ahead of you. i’m not to sure she would give up what she wants to do, to live with someone she’s been talking to – long distance wise. i’m sorry, but that’s just my opinion, good luck though!
I think if she’s smart, she won’t throw away something she’s been planning for a long time over a six month relationship. And if you’re smart, you’ll let her make that decision without trying to pressure her one way or the other. You’re already long distance, and you seem to think there’s enough of a future there to want to commit to a lease, so what’s the big deal about trying to get through training together?
Let her make the ultimate decision. Do you really want to be the reason why she left her dream behind? She might be feeling a little pressured, and you’re both very young. If you pressure her to stay behind for you, she’ll probably end up resenting you in the end and you’ll both be unhappy. If military is what she wants, then she should go for it. Sometimes if you put things on hold, they never get done and she’ll just end up working in some endless job unless she attends college in the states. even in that case, it’s very expensive and she’ll need a lot of time to focus. if you really care about her, let her mature!
Whether she really will join or not, who knows. Ultimately she is the only one that knows, but don’t tell her to hold off for you, because that’s a tad selfish on your part.
love is tough, isn’t it?
good luck
i think that if she is going to join she would of already done it because, it gives you time to adjust to military life such as going to pt’s and ranking up. she probally doesnt want to give you up at the moment because she likes the feelings that you give her and she wants to feel the same way but she doesnt. i’d say just move on.