What do I do about a friend who is lying about everything to me?
She has told me she has been a dancer since she was 3, and would always put me down about my dancing even though I only just started, I’m a serious dancer. She would say things like my teacher could whip you into shape, and would always say she was an amazing dancer best in her dance school. Then she said she was a vegan for 2 years. She said she used to be anorexic and had to go to several camps for help. She said she was addicted to meth for a year. These are her main lies. I know for sure the 3 are not true, im not sure about the meth but I suspect thats a lie too. She was telling me about this dance competition she was in where she fell and came in 16th. This was after I knew of course so I just played along. Now she says when she is going on vacation to Mexico, her dance teacher has arranged some competitions down there for her to bring up her national ranking. And she only told me these things after I told her about myself. Like when I said I danced, she immediatly said she did too, when I said I was vegetarian she said she was vegan, and when i said I was bulimic she said she was anorexic. Oh and I also told her how I was raped when I was like 5 and she said she was to by a guy 32 wlaking down th street and just kidnapped her and raped her. I know shes lying and I have like no idea what to do anymore. She is always like trying to be better than me or something and dont know how to confront her cuz she will just deny everything =( Please help!
confront her about it and even if she does deny it, u know shes lying so tell her that she is completely eliminating your trust to her. tell her that lying is immature and if she cant stop yall’s friendship cant be the same. thats what i would do… well actually i would completely stop hanging out w/ her if she didnt stop after you told her that and she didnt do anything.
Well if she keeps lying don’t be her friend or go and make up this think she will follow along and then tell everyone an make her look bad and did u really get raped??????
I had friends like that too and it seems very stupid. I don’t know but I feel like they will say anything for acceptance.
She is envious! hands down!
This type of “friend” is better to keep away…as far as possible! The fact that she is so envious will make her talk bad about you behind your back!(every time when she will hear a compliment about you coming from other persons). She doesn’t want you to be better than her and she will make up those stories so she will seem at least as interesting as you are!
You don’t need to confront her, you just know that she is lying to you so that enough for you to take distance and not to trust her anymore. Just take distance little by little and find another friend that will support you and respect you for being their friend!
Be confident! Be wise! Be happy!
Chappi
This is pure bitchiness!
i wouldn’t believe that crap either, and i certainly wouldn’t put up with it.
She clearly isn’t your real friend, she probably doesn’t care and she is probably very insecure about herself and sort of using you to make her feel better than you.
what i would do is say something like “gosh, isn’t it strange how we hav SO MUCH in common?
i want to hear your story of how you (insert lie here).”
haha go on it will be funny! (;
she will sh*t herself and be nervous- either stutter or go “ummmm…!” because obviously she won’t have a story.
after that, don’t make an effort to talk to her and eventually you won’t talk at all
Good luck!
-x-Natalie-x-