What help is there for disabled senior citizens who need home repairs, cleaning, security in OKC?
ByI have a dear friend, who is about 70-80. He has had his legs broken in a car accident (he was a pedestrian) and now walks with a cane. He is still working in his own business, although I would assume not very well, due to his mobility problems and the fact that he is often quite broke.
I used to drop by and bring him food, but unfortunately cannot do so anymore, since I have fallen on hard times myself.
His home is very unsanitary and is piled high with boxes. He himself realizes that it is a fire hazard, thank god, and uses only a bathroom heater for heat, because he is afraid the other heater would catch the house on fire.
His roof has had a major leak and he now has mold throughout the house. It is bad enough that it is making my fiance and his mother both very sick even to walk to the porch. They have asthma and allergies.
He has roaches so bad that they even crawl on you when you come in.
His kitchen is so filthy, he has trash everywhere and dishes are dirty. I’m not even sure he eats in there anymore.
He also recently told me that he had been “hit” (by thieves) three times in one week. The first night (and I was there that night, and left before he got home, as I was taking care of his cats while he was out of town), I saw a suspicious looking truck park outside his house. I waited to see if they were going to his house, and when they got out and went across the street, I left. Apparently, later that night, they stole things off his trailer.
He has been sleeping in his van since that happened, and then last night, he was going to go to the bathroom, and his cats ran off all of a sudden, at the same time he heard people. He went back, and a truck was backing quickly through the alleyway.
Tonight, they stole things from his house WHILE HE WAS THERE!!!!
I am at my wit’s end as to what can be done to protect him. Please give me some advice or referrals? I’m afraid to call DHS or someone, because I’m afraid his house will be condemned, or he will have everything taken away and be institutionalized. He isn’t senile, he is just physically disabled and unable to fix these problems, and unfortunately, I am just about the only person he can count on, and I am unable to fix this enormous of a problem.
I think he should be in a “Independent Living” type situation, where there is someone to check on him, but not watch his every move, and where he can come and go freely, as long as someone knows where he is for extended absences. Someplace where he can keep his cats, but has to downsize his “THINGS”, which are proving to be very dangerous for him!!! He does still work, which requires travel, but he is unable to clean his house, fix the problems with it, or protect himself.

4 Comments
September 2nd, 2010 at 7:59 pm
Please check with the Office of the Aging in your area. There are volunteers who are willing to help with Meals on Wheels, etc.
September 2nd, 2010 at 8:38 pm
Do you have a “Rotary” organisation is the USA? They do help people.
But, nonetheless, I just get so upset to hear these things. First, WHAT are the police doing? Neighbours? Can they help?
Has he got a cell phone that can be logged in every night this way AAA911. So it is at the top of the list.
Can he afford to have security installed that goes off with a loud siren noise?
Surely there is a Church group, that could send some ladies in once a week to clean for him? Please keep me posted. This is awful.
September 2nd, 2010 at 9:28 pm
My heart goes out to you and your friend.
I understand your hesitency to call DHS, but unless your friend has family and friends who he will allow to help him clean and repair his house then using the services from DHS may be the only way to improve the conditions he is living in. I’m assuming that OKC is Oklahoma City….is that right? If so, here are some ideas for you.
There may be private social service charities who can help. For example, many churches have programs that work with people who are struggling. Also, Oklahoma City has loans and grants for people who need home repairs. There are services available. Get information and then talk with your friend about accepting the help.
You can dial 211 to get referrals. If you need the 10 digit number click on the link and it will give you the local 10 digit numbers for your area. This is a referral service sponsored by United Way.
http://www.211oklahoma.org/
You might need to risk contacting DHS in order to find your friend all the help he deserves. It would be great if he would talk to a case manager from your local Areawide Agency on Aging. Your friend can not be institutionalized against his will if he is mentally alert and capable. However, from your description of his living conditions, there is a possibility that his house would be cleaned out. Having a case manager to find all of the possible ways to help him is likely your best bet, despite the risk of him having his house cleaned out and some of his stuff taken away. I know this must be hard, hopefully he will agree with you that finding an independent living situation is a good idea.
Here is the contact information for the local Agency on Aging, assuming you are in Oklahoma City:
Areawide Aging Agency: 934-4344
or you could try the Statewide line:
Senior Info-line 1-800-211-2116
Oklahoma Department of Human Service
http://www.okdhs.org/programsandservices/docs/olderoklaho
I hope you’ll stay in contact with your friend, and that he will accept some help. Your concern is very kind!
September 2nd, 2010 at 10:05 pm
Here is another idea, call “code enforcement” and explain the situation to them, ask for referral agencies to help clean up the mess, tell them that he is low income, disabled and a senior and ask about agencies willing to help him. Perhaps your county has programs to help. sometimes when it is so bad, it is a mental condition that needs addressing. If you belong to a church, call your pastor and seek his advice, perhaps he can help get volunteers to clean up the house and make repairs to it. (Habitat for Humanity), you can try Americorps they might be able to help, call United Way for a referral to the appropriate agency.
Since it is near the holidays, call your newspaper and see if they could print an articale seeking a secret “Santa” to repair his home, people are generous at this time of the year