Will someone please help me out with these girl problems? Long…?
Ok so there’s this girl I really like , she trusts me with pretty much everything but I know she still has feelings for at least one of her ex’s and maybe the other one, but I know it sounds creepy/pathetic but anytime I get a text I hope its her and I get disappointed when its not. Also one thing that describes how I feel about her is the song Smile by uncle Kracker. I’m almost 100% positive that she doesn’t like me back but recently when we hang out she seems a lot more flirty, and also I have dropped tons of hints that I like her but I don’t think she catching on, but I don’t want to ruin our friendship if she does find out that I like her and she doesn’t like me back. What do you all think I should do about this?
Also I was kinda thinking of telling her like that I saw a yahoo answers thing that sounded like something that she’s been through or something like that and giving her a link to one of my questions about her cuz I’m pretty sure she has a answers account, do you think that would be a good way to try and get her to realize?
Another thing that kinda goes with her being a little more flirty is, we’re both in our schools band, and its marching season, she’s in color guard and I play trumpet, on Friday it was our last day of band camp and we had our preview show for the parents that night, and every year after the preview a bunch of the kids go to the local drive in, I’m a junior and I’ve never been and she asked me if I was/wanted to go and I decided to go and she ended up like having nothing to do with me when we got there even though she pretty much asked me to go. I have pretty strong feelings for her but I’m starting to second guess myself which I always do and it always ends up being my downfall. She’s not necessarily a 10 in most peoples books, but most of the time she is to me. She trusts me with everything. I do pretty much everything for her and I’m pretty sure I’ve made it obvious that I like her but I’m not sure. I’ve driven about 10 miles to her house illegally twice to comfort her. But I just don’t think she likes me back and I don’t wanna come straight out and ask her, she also lingers on her ex’s a lot (she’s only got 2), but she really is lingering on her first who just moved to south Carolina (we live in Southern Indiana) and I’m helping her get over it but it kinda annoys me cuz thats like all she talks about anymore. My one fear about with her is that if I get with her somehow is that she won’t actually have feelings for me or she’ll cheat on me with one of her ex’s. I just need help with this situation but none of my friends are really going pretty in depth,We hung out again tonight but this time we wen’t driving but it wasn’t the same distance as before cuz we live in the same neighborhood, but anyways I taught her how to drive a stick and she was pretty good at it (a lot better than I thought she would be). I had so much fun probably the most fun I’ve had with a girl for awhile, we went like all over the county, the last place we stopped before we went home was walmart and I bought her a shirt that she wanted and when we walked away cuz at first she didn’t want me to pay for it but as we walked away with it and went to another part of the store she was saying “I guess its alright cuz you’re like my brother” and I said yeah but I was kinda sad from that point on cuz the same thing was said by the last girl I really liked


She has made it clear: she sees you as a brother. It may seem confusing about why she sees you like that when she has been flirting with you but most of the time, girls who have been through a horrible break up will tend to flirt with people to get their mind off it, they don’t mean to do it but it seems to make them happy to have a laugh. I’m sure she cares about you but not in the same way as you do I’m afraid.
Just tell her how you feel. Because she thinks your such a good friend, she may think you’re not into her like that..but if you tell her how you feel she may view you differently. Good luck dude.
I am a female, and just went through pretty much the same situation but the opposite way around. I made a big mistake in the end and i lost him all together.
What i think you should do is sit down with her over lunch or dinner in a private kind of place where its just the two of you and no unexpected visitors. Sit down with her and tell her how you feel and ask her if there’s any chance she feels the same.
If shes said to you that you’re like a brother to her it can either mean that she likes you but doesn’t w ant to admit it so is trying to come closer to you that way or you act protectively and like a big brother would. (Thats sometimes a realy good thing to start a relationship!!!)
So best advise is sit her down, tell her the truth and if she replies with i dont think of you like that i just want to be friend. Just stay friends for a while and you never know where things will go in the future. Always be there for her and she wil start to have a thing for you. Trust me!
Best of luck!
she doesn’t love you the same way you love her
Just wait for things they’ll get betterr