Planning around my Navy schedule…?
by admin on Tuesday, May 31st, 2011 | 3 Comments
My boyfriend and I want to get married before I go into the Navy. The problem is that is 2 months away. Since that is too soon for us we decided to wait until after I am out of boot camp and school since there will not be enough time between. We don’t have a lot of money but don’t want to do a court house wedding. Another problem is we live in different states (Ohio and Alabama). I don’t think there will be a lot of people coming because neither of us have big families or friends willing to travel. We would be alright with a back yard wedding style or I even thought of Vegas but I don’t know what would be best. Anyone done either and can give me the pros and cons of each?
yes! Wait till you are done with school. Many things are going to happen in your life in the next year and you will change and grow in that time. If you can not start out together,in the same home and sharing daily life the percent of you marriage has only a 20 % chance of staying married. When you are together you grow at the same time. When you are away from each other you can’t grow at the same pace and in the same direction. Good Luck!
We had a small wedding in NH that took about 3 hours for most people to travel to. People were able to come up and either stay, if they wanted, or drive back home. We had it at an Inn, so we were able to have a small ceremony there, and have some light appetizers afterwards. Then later we went to dinner with everyone, rather than having a huge party. We don’t do dancing, so that way it wasn’t like, empty space. The whole thing, including our honeymoon suite for 3 nights, the flowers, cake, invites, dress, everything…$4,000. That sounds like a lot, but it’s really not much. We had about 6 months to plan it. I got my dress from David’s Bridal online and they shipped it right ot my house. I was lucky that I didn’t even need alterations. Also, David’s was awesome about the shoes. I forgot to get some, and the weekend before they called in the guy who dyes the shoes on his night off to come dye mine, at no extra charge. Let them know you’re in the military and they’ll jump through hoops for you, which is awesome. My husband is a Marine. Also, try using your military id to get discounts on everything. The flowers, dress, food..people want to help military families.
So, in the end I liked the way we did it, but I wish we could have invited more people there. I think you should do the backyard thing, because that way at least you can have *some* family and friends there. It’s great to be able to share your joy
1. You ever considered a TN wedding?
See here:
http://www.thepreachershouse.com/
http://www.chapelatthepark.com/wedding_packages.html
http://www.logchapel.com/packages.html
http://www.heartlandwedding.com/
http://www.creeksideweddingchapel.com/
http://www.marryonamountain.com/
http://www.heartofgoldchapel.com/weddingpricespackages.html
Well, it is between Ohio and Alabama . . . and has lots of wedding chapels with reasonable prices.
OR . . .
2. If you get stationed in VA, try this:
http://www.beachweddingsvirginia.com/packages.htm
http://www.virginiabeachweddingchapel.com/Virginia_Beach_Wedding_Chapel.htm
3. Another idea? Talk to the base chaplain wherever you get stationed. You can probably get married very quietly and reasonably at the base chapel.
4. Good luck with your planning.
You write: We would be alright with a back yard wedding style or I even thought of Vegas
The back yard wedding involves one side of the family doing a lot of traveling . . . and that could get expensive.
Flying across the country to Vegas, add in the costs of hotel rooms and food . . . well, you said you don’t have a lot of money. Vegas could add up also.
I think if you are on the eastern side of the country . . . and on a tight budget . . . then you should look for options on the eastern side of the country.